Reflections on Past Presentations

Areas where I need to/have improved:

1. Making the speech entertaining - While running for a state office, I had to make a public speech to accompany my campaign. One of the biggest mistakes I made was that I focused solely on substance and what I wanted to change in the organization. I put minimal work into making my speech entertaining, which was really important given my audience: middle and high school kids who lacked long attention spans.

One of my competitors made a speech with a reference to a popular movie. This immediately got people's attention and made the speech engaging and entertaining. In comparison, my speech was more content-based, but less interesting. I learned from this mistake and came back the following year to make a speech that had a better balance of content and entertainment. At the time, Frozen was a very popular movie, so I made an analogy using Frozen that made people interested while also explaining my content effectively. I think I also had an effective grabber in my RCL speech that made it more interesting.

2. Standing behind the podium - I made this mistake both years that I ran for state office. While the podium was tempting because I could have notes on it, it really inhibited my physical connection to the audience. I learned from this mistake, and in my RCL speech, I spoke from the side of the podium, where I could still access the computer, but was able to make a connection with the audience.

3. Body language/gestures - When practicing for my RCL speech in the Speaking Center, I made too many hand gestures, so I decided that I would hold my notes in both hands. While this strategy was effective for reducing hand movement, it made me appear stiff. I definitely need to work on this going forward. I would also like to incorporate physical body movement in the future. I just wasn't sure how to time it for my RCL speech.

4. Eye contact - I did make eye contact during my RCL speech, but it was too fleeting. I was trying to balance between making people feel uncomfortable and not making any eye contact. I need to work on knowing exactly how long I should "talk" to a particular individual in the audience.

Here comes the helicopter...parent

Thesis: In the past 40 years (between the time when our parents were kids and today), parenting has evolved from a largely hands off approach to a well-meaning, but intrusive intervention in young adults' lives that may harm students more than it helps them.

I will start by defining helicopter parenting in my first paragraph and then explain how I will develop my essay. First, I plan to provide evidence proving that the shift occurred. I hope to find evidence that specifically addresses, for example, how much time parents spent helping their children in the 1960s compared to now. I have already found some statistics (like the one shown below) that demonstrate how parents have specifically intervened in their children's lives.

Second, I will explain why the shift occurred. Already some plausible explanations are that people have fewer children today, which results in them investing more time into each one. Also, parents seem to feel more connected to their students' success and more worried about their job opportunities post-graduation. Additionally, parents may be feeling peer pressure from parents who are also over-involved in their children's lives. All of these factors and more contribute to this shift.

Third, I will talk about the significance of this shift. Many studies have found that students with helicopter parents are more afraid of failure, have more anxiety, have less self-esteem, and underdeveloped life skills. All of these issues have hindered rather than helped students be successful.

Fourth, I will introduce the counterargument and explain how parental attention can help students succeed in many cases. I think this is important because parents should not neglect their children, but rather, try to strike a balance between helicopter parenting and abandonment.

Then I will conclude reflecting on how we can change our behaviors going forward.

Sources:
http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/what-is-helicopter-parenting/
http://time.com/3904527/helicopter-parent-study-controlling-students-kids-children/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/201509/declining-student-resilience-serious-problem-colleges#_=_
https://www.law.uh.edu/ihelg/monograph/11-12.pdf
http://hereandnow.wbur.org/2015/08/18/how-to-raise-an-adult

Paradigm Shifts

Examples of paradigm shifts:

1. The evolution of the helicopter parent
We've all heard about the rise of the helicopter parent who is overprotective, over-involved, and over-connected to their children's successes and failures in school and life. But forty to fifty years ago, when our parents were growing up, parents and children alike looked at parenting in an entirely different way. Your parents may have told you, as mine did, that they grew up bike riding to school uphill both ways for 15 miles with a broken leg and a broken arm in the snow. While, this is clearly an over exaggeration, there is some truth to the idea that children today are more sheltered than they were before. Check out the graphic below to see how parents have become more involved in their children's lives.

I think there are many factors that have caused this shift. Definitely one of them is economic. After the economic crash in 2008, it became especially hard for people just out of college to find jobs. This, along with the introduction of the common application (which made it easier for students to apply to multiple colleges), increased the college craze and the obsession to get into a good school. Parents still believe that getting an Ivy League acceptance can guarantee their children a good life. Therefore many of them have taken it upon themselves to help get their children there. Another possible cause of the shift is that more parents are working full time today than were in the past. This may make them worry about neglecting their children, so they will often overcompensate by getting over-involved in some aspects of their children's lives. It's also important to remember that we often hold parents accountable when their child exhibits good or bad behavior. Parents may be motivated to help their children, so that they gain societal approval. As their kid succeeds, they succeed.

2. The move from institutionalizing mentally challenged people to trying to develop different programs to help them
Before the mid-1900s, if you were mentally ill, you were usually institutionalized for life. This was not meant to be a punishment; at the time, people genuinely believed that this was the best way to help these struggling individuals. Unfortunately, while they were able to get care, many of the institutions were poorly funded, so many patients lived in poor conditions.

Courtesy of PBS

Over time, we started to view mental health differently as more research was done and some antipsychotic drugs entered the market. This led to the new belief that these individuals would benefit more from living in society than in dreary hospitals where they had little human interaction. This recognition that these people needed to socialize and to be part of a community to be happy resulted in a large deinstitutionalization movement that ultimately improved mental health care.